Couple Prayers – Praying After a Fight

Suggested Prayer for Christians in a Troubled Relationship

Sep 15, 2009

Christians believe God is love and that in relationships, especially between a couple of Christ-followers, God's love should be evident, smoothing the difficulties.

In the very beginning, the Bible states that God ordained relationships between men and women. (Genesis 2:24, The Message) Yet Christian couples often have the same difficulties adjusting to being together that non-believers have. If faith in God is not made a part of the relationship, religious individuals believe that the couple will have more trouble overcoming differences.

Religious followers believe that the apostle Paul’s life and words teach that God does not promise to make a believer’s path smooth, but only to be present and offer assistance when requested.

The Bible Tells Christians How They Should Behave

Christians do not always behave perfectly. They have faults and bad habits, make mistakes and get sick. Sometimes they do something even when they know it is not healthy or right. Even Christians need to learn to get along.

When believers quarrel, they need to examine the cause and get back on track. Praying together is one way for a religious couple to increase intimacy and build trust. When two people are having trouble even talking together without a buildup of anger, it may be helpful to have a prayer to read together.

Written prayers are suggestions, a place to start. When angry, they provide words when praying may be the most difficult thing to do.

A Suggested Prayer for a Christian Couple After a Fight

"God of love, how could You put two people who are such opposites together? One of us squeezes the toothpaste from the end, one in the middle. One of us leaves piles of clothes wherever they fall and the other one is tidy. One of us can’t ever seem to finish a project before starting another and one never wants to start anything. One forgets things and the other one remembers everything that should be forgotten. Living like this is impossible!

"We still love each other, but liking each other is becoming more and more difficult! Will You smooth out our differences? Remind us why we are together. Teach us to love better, to give more, to be patient and kind when it seems impossible. Don’t teach just one of us, teach us both. Open our ears and our hearts so that we can remember our love when day-to-day things drown out our memories of those things which are truly important and eternal.

"Let us disagree honestly but in a spirit of charity rather than anger or frustration. Help us find a balance point in You, oh righteous Judge. Remind us of the mercy that You have shown and motivate us to share that which we have been given. Let the hope which lives within us melt our frozen hearts.

"Let us hear Your laughter as we laugh, and when we cry, remind us that we never cry alone. When we stop holding hands, draw us back together with the memory of our vows to each other and the love we shared when we made them.

"We come together asking these things in the name of Jesus, Who loved and forgave us and Who desires we be reconciled with all. It is by His love we will be known.

How to Use Suggested Prayers

Christians believe prayer is a conversation with God. Anyone can pray, at any time, in any location. There are a variety of ways to pray and praying can be as unique as each individual.

Suggested prayers are just that, words suggested to be used in talking to God. Just like any other conversation, using one’s own words is more intimate, more personal, but when words fail or emotions are too strong, a suggested prayer can help overcome obstacles that are blocking prayer.

It is okay to change a suggested prayer so that it accurately reflects a couple’s own circumstances, needs or beliefs. Suggested prayers can also be used as an outline for writing new prayers that a couple can use to talk to God.

Conflict resolution is never easy, but when two people truly love God they have a significant motivation for getting along. The Bible teaches that Christians are to be known by their love, so fighting is not appropriate behavior for believers. When differences cause quarrels, prayer helps the reconciliation process. Talking and listening (through reading the Bible) to a third party, God, is a form of mediation. Sometimes it is helpful to seek counseling services from a pastor or other spiritual leader.

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