Empowering Your Life
Key Questions to Move You to Authentic Living
If you are feeling drained, fatigued or disenchanted with your life, it may be that you've committed to responsibilities that do not feed you. If you automatically say "yes" when asked to do something, you are probably a people pleaser. It's important to take time and ask yourself if what you are doing is making you happy. This process combines what you are already committed to doing and what others will ask you to do.
Now write down all your commitments in the following areas: partner; children; home; extended family; work; committees; volunteer work; church; friends; etc. Then you'll go through a process of asking the "right questions." These questions are from Debbie Ford's book, The Right Questions published by HarperCollins 2003. Once you realize that some of your commitments are out of alignment with your best self, it's time to take action. Simply check the items that are not feeding you and find a way to either complete the commitment, dump it, get help with the responsibility or do it another way.
The next step is not taking on additional responsibilities unless those commitments energize you. So, practice one of two steps.
- Say "No" kindly and firmly right away. You can say, "I really appreciate that you thought of me for this project. Right now, however, I'm going to have to say no as I want to focus on other opportunities."
- If you want want to think about the request, then tell the person you will get back with that person by tomorrow. Then ask yourself "The Right Questions." If it's something you want to do say YES!! If it is not, simply get back with the person and respectfully decline.
The Right Questions - Empowering Questions from Debbie Ford
- Will this choice propel me toward an inspiring future or will it keep me stuck in the past?
- Will this choice bring me long-term fulfillment or will it bring me short-term gratification?
- Am I standing in my power or am I trying to please another?
- Am I looking for what’s right or am I looking for what’s wrong?
- Will my choice add to my life force or will it rob me of my energy?
- Will this situation as a catalyst to grow and evolve or will I use it to beat myself up?
- Does this choice empower me or does it disempower me?
- Is this an act of self love or is it an act of self sabotage?
- Is this an act of faith or is it an act of fear?
- Am I choosing from my divinity or am I choosing from my humanity?
These questions will empower you to make more meaningful and fulfilling choices in your life. As you practice saying yes to only what is empowering, loving, growth oriented and inspiring you will fill lightness in your life. Your joy, happiness, energy and fulfillment will increase.
Key Questions
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